I asked if there would be a funeral.
She said, “There’s nothing for you to do here.”
That night, when my mother stepped out to take a phone call, the nurse came back.
She slipped me a scrap of paper and whispered, “If you want to write something, I can try to send it with him.”
I had one thing left.
A little knitted blanket I had made in secret during the pregnancy. Blue wool. Yellow birds stitched into the corners. I had hidden it under the lining of my suitcase because it was the only thing that felt like mine and his.
I wrote one sentence on the paper.
Tell him he was loved.
The nurse took the note and the blanket.
The next day, they were gone.
Whenever I asked questions after that, my mother shut me down.
Later, when I asked my mother where the blanket was, she said, “I burned it. It was unhealthy for you to keep clinging to that.”
Then they sent me to college before my body had even recovered.
No grave. No proof. No chance to say goodbye.
Whenever I asked questions after that, my mother shut me down. My father always said some version of, “Please don’t make this harder.”
So I learned not to ask.
I learned how to carry grief in a way that didn’t offend anyone.
My mother died two years ago. My father moved in with me last year after a fall and a string of health problems. His memory is not great in some areas anymore, but it is not gone. He remembers what suits him.

Last week, I was in the front yard pulling weeds when a moving truck backed into the driveway next door.
I looked up. A young man jumped down from the truck carrying a lamp.
And my heart stopped.
Dark curls. Sharp cheekbones. My chin.
I know how that sounds. People project. People see themselves where they want to. I told myself that immediately.
Then he smiled and walked over like he belonged there.
“Hi,” he said. “I’m Miles. Looks like we’re neighbors.”
I stared at him long enough to be weird.
Then I said, “Sorry. I’m Claire.”
He laughed. “Moving-day chaos. I get it.”
We exchanged maybe 30 more seconds of normal conversation. I don’t remember a word of it. I went back inside shaking.
My father was in the kitchen pouring tea.
I said, “The new neighbor looks like me.”
He didn’t look up at first. “A lot of people look like a lot of people.”
“No,” I said. “I mean it.”
He set the mug down too fast.
He turned. Saw my face. Went pale.
I said, “What?”
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